Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Interpersonal thoughts....

My emotions often get the best of me as they do for a lot of people. My needs always seem to take a back seat but when I want something, I seem to get it. I don't ask for it, I do it for myself.

My inner core is something I find reaching for and striving to unleash it as a part of my daily routine. I am a Christian, I attend church regularly, I volunteer my time, I tithe, etc. All of these things give me a better quality of life and they allow me to see beyond what I think I am capable of. But then, real life and real problems happen and I find myself back in the black hole crawling myself out.

The analogy I use for everything: life, sex, faith, parenting (teaching my kids about sex vs love) is a puzzle.

Imagine a million pieces. You get off to a good start and you find matching pieces. But then you find that you desperately want a certain puzzle piece to match what you already have completed; but it doesn't. And you know it doesn't fit but for whatever reason, you try so hard to make it fit. You force it; not anyone else, but you.

If you would have just moved on to find the next piece instead of forcing one that didn't fit, you would feel and be so much better off to begin with.

People have different perspectives, but I can say from experience this analogy works. It works because we often place blame on someone else instead of looking at ourselves. It is a natural way of thinking. But at some point in our lives we will look back and realize how many things we could have changed, if we just stopped and found the right piece instead of wasting so much time and effort on the wrong one.

Thursday, February 10, 2011


It seems like 2011 is on a roll and moving faster than ever! My best friend is getting married, my brother moved to another state, my parents are about to go on another cruise, my sister is moving, my daughter had her first kiss, and my other daughters are playing softball, Todd is with a new company that bought the old company, mid-terms are almost here, then spring break, then NY vacation, then summer, new school year, birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas and it will be 2012 before I know it. Man…I’m tired and it’s only February! So how can I slow down? I guess if I have a chance to breathe, I will take it!

Energy, Determination, Motive, Confidence; these are my four key words for the year (one word for each quarter). This quarter is Energy, if you read above, you will see why!

I probably have too much energy for most people, but for my everyday life I need it. But even though Energy is my key word this quarter, I want to put more Energy into slowing down rather than speeding up. I heard on the radio that most mothers yell at their kids for the same things; clothes & cleanliness, attitude & disrespect. But they said that next time you find your kids shoes on the floor and their room trashed, just be thankful. Use the Energy that you would use to yell at them and instead use it to realize how lucky we are to be parents. Slow down your thoughts. Use that Energy and tell yourself ‘you have kids that have Energy and physical capabilities to run and have fun with their friends’. So the 5 minutes of huffing and puffing at your kids, really should just be quiet, calm and collected. At least try! If you can do this once a week while picking up your house, think of what could come out of it.

It is not about having Energy, it is about the way you use it. Shine on!!